Tag: mediation

Collaborative Divorce – Why everybody wins by participating

The benefits of collaborative divorce appeal to many divorcing couples. Those benefits include: private negotiations; in general, shorter period of time to reach a settlement; and, consequently, smaller legal fees. Those benefits, however, come with a commitment: you have to participate. A participation agreement is something I make every collaborative client sign and participation goes… Read more »

Why Ben and Jen chose mediation

That headline should probably say, “why Ben and Jen probably chose mediation”. Without knowing the two parties or being involved personally, that’s all I can do. Yet as a practicing mediator for the past 25 years, it’s fairly obvious why a high-profile couple would choose mediation: control. That answer might surprise those of you who… Read more »

Alimony in mediation and collaborative divorce

When you hear the term “alimony”, there’s a tendency to think there’s no way a divorcing couple could ever agree. Hence, there’s often an assumption that divorces where alimony is involved might not be good candidates for mediation or collaborative divorce. With the new alimony statutes in Massachusetts, where alimony terms are now more clearly… Read more »

Life and death divorce matters

A life and death matter divorcing couples should consider is life insurance. Most couples get some form of life insurance during the marriage and, in most cases, they name their spouse as the beneficiary. It’s not unusual for divorcing couples to keep the existing life insurance in place after the divorce.  But no matter what… Read more »

Slow down your mediation

One of the many selling points for mediation versus litigation is time. In general, divorcing couples who are committed to resolving matters out of court can get divorced in far less time than it would take a case to go to through the court system.  That said, a mediation should not be seen as  a… Read more »

Setting the boundaries for a smooth divorce

Many times I am asked about the most distinct difference between collaborative divorce and litigation and why collaborative divorce can be better.  Perhaps the most notable difference lies in the communication.  More specifically, the amount of direct contact you have with your spouse during the divorce process and negotiation.

Can mediation and collaborative divorce be less taxing?

When it comes to taxes, most people would prefer to pay as little as legally required. So it stands to reason that when a couple divorces, who gets what tax deductions can become a matter of contention. Mediation and collaborative divorce can help prevent disagreements over tax deductions from escalating into time-consuming, retainer-devouring delays.

Paying for college for divorcing parents

Paying for college can be quite a challenge for divorced parents. Yet those who have settled their divorce via mediation or collaborative divorce, might actually have an advantage in this area. How? Many couples—divorced and otherwise—have different ideas on whether to and how much to contribute to a child’s college education. Some think their child… Read more »

Mediation or collaborative divorce can save the house

You and your spouse have decided to divorce and your home is the primary marital asset. You agree you want the children to remain in the house. You even agree on which of the two of you stays in the house. Yet if the spouse who is staying on in the home cannot afford to… Read more »

How to keep holiday visitation from being a sticking point

When it comes to celebrating the holidays, many people hearken back to their childhoods and want to replicate their family rituals for their own children, including things like lighting the menorah, decorating the tree, opening one present only on Christmas Eve, etc.  Yet, if you were not a child of divorce and now you and… Read more »