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Addressing the gray areas of a gray divorce

In recent years, there has been an increase in divorces for couples over 50. Many of these couples have been married for two or more decades. While reasons for the increase in divorces from this demographic vary, it does reinforce one school of thought: the longer you are married, the more complicated the divorce. That’s… Read more »

Three things to best prepare for your divorce

I recently stumbled across a blog that pooled 48 divorce mediation experts about suggestions to help people best prepare to go through a divorce. Specifically, the author asked each for three things.  Nobody asked me, but having done this for more than 25 years, I have a few thoughts on areas where people going through… Read more »

How to talk to your spouse during collaborative divorce

This may seem like an odd headline. Yet one of the beauties of a collaborative divorce is that many couples actually do learn how to talk to each other during this process. This does not happen by osmosis. It comes from working with a divorce coach prior to and during the negotiation. In a more… Read more »

What you should know before starting your divorce

Hindsight might be 20-20. After a divorce, it can be downright telescopic. And that’s why it’s not uncommon for a divorced person to lament, “If I had only known that before my divorce.”  While you will learn much about the process while it’s underway, the reality is you can and should learn as much as… Read more »

Divorce and the self-employed

Being self-employed has many advantages. No boss to report to, tax deductions, shorter commutes (in most cases), etc. Yet when it comes to divorce, being your own boss can get complicated—whether your spouse is part of your business or not. And that’s why collaborative divorce is often the best method of divorce for self-employed and… Read more »

How do you rate a collaborative divorce?

Television networks have the Nielson’s. Attorneys have Martingale-Hubbard and Avvo. Couples going through a collaborative divorce, however, act as their own rating service during the course of the proceeding and grades are based on whether or not both parties’ objectives/goals are being met. Confused? Let’s take a step back. At the first meeting of a… Read more »

Who gets the debt?

Opening discussions in any mediation or collaborative divorce typically center on topics like the children, the house, the savings account, retirement funds, etc. Very few include things like the amount of debt accrued within the marriage. Perhaps it should. Whether it’s mediation or a collaborative divorce, the most common types of debt I encounter are:… Read more »

5 common missteps in mediation

In mediation, there’s an overall assumption that both parties are reasonable and are willing to work together to reach an agreement. In addition, it is not uncommon for at least one of the spouses to be anxious to get through the mediation in order to put the divorce behind him or her. This can sometimes… Read more »

Is there a better time of year to get divorced?

To listen to some radio advertisements, getting a divorce can be just as much a New Year’s resolution as joining a gym, giving up sweets or any other goal for 2015. While it’s true that many people pondering a divorce towards the end of the year will wait until after the holidays to begin proceedings,… Read more »

A holiday time share—a good or bad idea?

Even for divorcing couples who get along and are working towards an amiable resolution, holiday visitation can be a contentious point of discussion. And unless you have been divorced before, questions are many: where for Thanksgiving? Where will the kids be on Christmas morning to open up presents from Santa? What are appropriate arrangements for… Read more »