Category: Mediation

Paying for college for divorcing parents

Paying for college can be quite a challenge for divorced parents. Yet those who have settled their divorce via mediation or collaborative divorce, might actually have an advantage in this area. How? Many couples—divorced and otherwise—have different ideas on whether to and how much to contribute to a child’s college education. Some think their child… Read more »

Mediation or collaborative divorce can save the house

You and your spouse have decided to divorce and your home is the primary marital asset. You agree you want the children to remain in the house. You even agree on which of the two of you stays in the house. Yet if the spouse who is staying on in the home cannot afford to… Read more »

How to keep holiday visitation from being a sticking point

When it comes to celebrating the holidays, many people hearken back to their childhoods and want to replicate their family rituals for their own children, including things like lighting the menorah, decorating the tree, opening one present only on Christmas Eve, etc.  Yet, if you were not a child of divorce and now you and… Read more »

Alimony durational limits and mediation/collaborative divorce

By now, most people have heard about the new Massachusetts’ alimony laws and how the length of time for alimony payments—at least for general term alimony–is factored based on the length of the marriage. On paper, you would think this might simplify things if you plan on mediating your divorce or going through a collaborative… Read more »

What would I ask before hiring an attorney?

As a mediator or collaborative divorce attorney, questions are a huge part of my job. Yet more often than you think, I’m the one being asked the questions. And the one most often asked is “what would I ask before hiring an attorney?” The answer really depends on the type of lawyer needed—family attorney, mediator… Read more »

Mediation – What’s it really like?

Over the years, I’ve mediated dozens of cases. One thing I try to be cognizant of is that, for most people, this is their first mediation (and hopefully their last). So while this might be routine to me, it can be a trip to the unknown for divorcing couples who are already in a highly… Read more »

How does divorce mediation work?

In its simplest definition, divorce mediation is when two people, who are getting a divorce, negotiate an agreement which is acceptable to both of them. The negotiations take place in a series of meetings with the help of a neutral third-party, called a mediator…