Category: Mediation

Stay away from friendly divorce advice

The decision to divorce is not one you make in a vacuum. Most people who make the decision to seek a divorce have some sort of confidant—be it family member or friend—as a sounding board and source of support. It’s when that support turns into advice, particularly if that friend or family member has gone… Read more »

How long will my divorce mediation take?

It’s a question that’s asked quite frequently. The answer is pretty standard: “That depends.” Couples often choose mediation based on the presumption that it will be faster than going through litigation. Typically, that’s correct, but not always. Factors arise in divorces of all kind—litigation, mediation and collaborative—that can prolong negotiation. “That depends” is my stock… Read more »

Must reads for divorcing couples

It’s been said that nothing can prepare you for divorce. Emotionally that can be true. From a practical standpoint, you can prepare yourself for the type of divorce you want and what you might expect after making that choice. That’s why in addition to filling out questionnaires, I send my prospective clients to my blog… Read more »

Why Ben and Jen chose mediation

That headline should probably say, “why Ben and Jen probably chose mediation”. Without knowing the two parties or being involved personally, that’s all I can do. Yet as a practicing mediator for the past 25 years, it’s fairly obvious why a high-profile couple would choose mediation: control. That answer might surprise those of you who… Read more »

3 Reasons Why Divorce Mediation Can Cost More Than It Should

“Time is money”. While this is true in just about any business, it’s even more true in divorce cases. That’s what makes divorce mediation so appealing to many couples. Instead of being at the mercy of the judge and attorneys, divorce mediation puts the onus on the divorcing couple to do the necessary legwork to… Read more »

Wall Street Journal article on mediation

The Wall Street Journal ran an article a few weeks back entitled Five Strategies to Get a Better Deal in Mediation by Veronica Dagher. While the article refers to business as well as divorce mediation, to be honest, it kind of ticked me off—mostly because of the title.

Who gets the debt?

Opening discussions in any mediation or collaborative divorce typically center on topics like the children, the house, the savings account, retirement funds, etc. Very few include things like the amount of debt accrued within the marriage. Perhaps it should. Whether it’s mediation or a collaborative divorce, the most common types of debt I encounter are:… Read more »

5 common missteps in mediation

In mediation, there’s an overall assumption that both parties are reasonable and are willing to work together to reach an agreement. In addition, it is not uncommon for at least one of the spouses to be anxious to get through the mediation in order to put the divorce behind him or her. This can sometimes… Read more »

Is there a better time of year to get divorced?

To listen to some radio advertisements, getting a divorce can be just as much a New Year’s resolution as joining a gym, giving up sweets or any other goal for 2015. While it’s true that many people pondering a divorce towards the end of the year will wait until after the holidays to begin proceedings,… Read more »