Category: Mediation

3 don’ts for your divorce

People turn to divorce attorneys for guidance on reaching a divorce settlement. In more than 30 years in practice–whether for collaborative divorce, divorce mediation or litigation–the advice I offer often deals with what NOT to do. The top three in the what NOT to do while negotiating a divorce settlement includes: Dating during the negotiation:… Read more »

Who gets the cat?

Divorce mediation and collaborative divorce offer a flexibility you don’t find in litigation. It’s designed that way so that both sides can negotiate, compromise and resolve issues to reach a settlement. The structure of both formats and the willingness of both parties to compromise typically cuts a path to resolution. Until you run into an… Read more »

The new tax law and divorce

How will the new tax reform law impact divorce? While most of the focus has been on the lowering of the tax rate for corporations, the new law will also have a significant impact on divorces as of January 1, 2019. The most notable of those changes concerns alimony. Previously, spouses paying alimony could declare… Read more »

Post-divorce mediation

A marriage may end legally. If children are involved, the marriage continues in many ways long after the divorce is final. Issues will arise. You and your ex may not agree on an issue or be able to come up with a compromise on your own. If you effectively ended your marriage through mediation, it… Read more »

Divorce mediation without the divorce

There’s a misconception that a couple must be divorcing to engage in mediation. In an age where second and third marriages are commonplace, it’s not unusual for couples to enter into mediation to sort out an agreement prior to marriage (Prenuptial Agreement), when marriage is not in the plans (Cohabitation Agreement) or when the parties… Read more »

Mediation attorney: I’m proud of my clients

That’s not a sentiment mediation attorneys will commonly express and I can’t say it’s true with every case. Yet there are some cases where couples go from barely being in the same room with their ex to proactively negotiating and compromising to reach an agreement that puts their children first. It’s difficult not to feel… Read more »

The call divorce lawyers dread

“___ introduced their new boy/girlfriend to the kids.” Introducing a new significant other before a divorce is final can derail even the smoothest negotiation, whether litigation, mediation or collaborative. Fortunately, collaborative divorce negotiations and the team approach it employs have built-in mechanisms to address these kinds of situations. Namely, a divorce coach. This video put… Read more »

More on why a neutral financial expert favors divorcing couples

Last month’s blog covered how working with a neutral financial expert as part of a collaborative divorce or mediation provides couples with the flexibility to craft an agreement to meet the current and immediate future needs of their family. This month’s blog offers a few more examples of why divorcing couples might want to go… Read more »

Having a neutral financial expert favors divorcing couples

Collaborative divorce and mediation provide couples the opportunity to customize the terms of their divorce to meet the current and immediate future needs of their family. Retaining a neutral financial expert and working with him/her offers an even better opportunity for couples to tailor an agreement that meets those needs. What exactly is a neutral… Read more »

Three things to best prepare for your divorce

I recently stumbled across a blog that pooled 48 divorce mediation experts about suggestions to help people best prepare to go through a divorce. Specifically, the author asked each for three things.  Nobody asked me, but having done this for more than 25 years, I have a few thoughts on areas where people going through… Read more »