Category: Mediation

Why divorce mediation costs less

Many divorcing couples choose mediation as a means of reducing costs. Some might make that decision without realizing why it costs less. To that end, it’s quite simple: couples have to do a considerable amount of the work that is usually the responsibility of their attorneys. Last month, we covered some of the documents couples… Read more »

Thoughts on significant milestones

The beginning of a new year carries different meaning for different people. For me, 2019 holds significant meaning as it represents my 10th year practicing collaborative divorce and my 20th in divorce mediation. Both milestones have me somewhat reflective as to why I chose to steer my practice in these two directions. As mentioned in… Read more »

What would I tell a friend?

Going through a divorce is one of the most difficult things you can go through in your life. It literally can define the rest of your life in either a good or bad way. It all depends on your approach. At least, that’s what I would tell a friend about how to go through a… Read more »

Divorcing with ‘adult’ children

“Who gets the kids” is a cliched question associated with many divorces. Yet what happens when the “kids” are really adults between the ages of 18 and 23 and in that next phase of life after high school? Does that or could that impact the type of divorce you choose—litigation, divorce mediation or collaborative divorce?… Read more »

What’s better, collaborative divorce or divorce mediation?

As an attorney who practices both collaborative divorce and mediation, it’s a question I’m often asked. To be honest, my answer really does not matter. The best choice between collaborative divorce or divorce mediation depends on the individuals going through the divorce, their honest appraisal of themselves and their situation and their comfort level. If… Read more »

Do you need a divorce attorney? What about half of one? Or less?

Getting a divorce is traumatic enough. The cost of hiring and retaining a divorce attorney can add tension to what may already be a tense situation. Yet for some couples going through divorce, paying an attorney to handle every legal matter may be an unnecessary expense. Yes, a lawyer just said you may not need… Read more »

Divorce and paying for college

Divorce not only changes your reality, but that of your children. This is especially true when it comes to your children’s choice of college and the issue of paying for it. For families that can afford or have saved enough money for their children’s college, this is a non-issue. The number of people who have… Read more »

3 don’ts for your divorce

People turn to divorce attorneys for guidance on reaching a divorce settlement. In more than 30 years in practice–whether for collaborative divorce, divorce mediation or litigation–the advice I offer often deals with what NOT to do. The top three in the what NOT to do while negotiating a divorce settlement includes: Dating during the negotiation:… Read more »

Who gets the cat?

Divorce mediation and collaborative divorce offer a flexibility you don’t find in litigation. It’s designed that way so that both sides can negotiate, compromise and resolve issues to reach a settlement. The structure of both formats and the willingness of both parties to compromise typically cuts a path to resolution. Until you run into an… Read more »