Category: Family Law

How collaborative divorce is better

The pretext to any collaborative divorce is that both parties basically agree and make a pledge to negotiate in good faith to reach a settlement that works for both parties. Integral to a collaborative divorce is a team approach, using a neutral coach and experts. When explaining the approach to a client recently, he asked,… Read more »

How to talk to your spouse during collaborative divorce

This may seem like an odd headline. Yet one of the beauties of a collaborative divorce is that many couples actually do learn how to talk to each other during this process. This does not happen by osmosis. It comes from working with a divorce coach prior to and during the negotiation. In a more… Read more »

What you should know before starting your divorce

Hindsight might be 20-20. After a divorce, it can be downright telescopic. And that’s why it’s not uncommon for a divorced person to lament, “If I had only known that before my divorce.”  While you will learn much about the process while it’s underway, the reality is you can and should learn as much as… Read more »

Stay away from friendly divorce advice

The decision to divorce is not one you make in a vacuum. Most people who make the decision to seek a divorce have some sort of confidant—be it family member or friend—as a sounding board and source of support. It’s when that support turns into advice, particularly if that friend or family member has gone… Read more »

Communication and divorce mediation

Many marriages break down because of a lack of communication or poor communication. So if a marriage can’t last due to bad communication, how can you expect those same two people to sit in a room and come to an agreement in divorce mediation? Does a neutral third-party mediator make that big of a difference?… Read more »

Must reads for divorcing couples

It’s been said that nothing can prepare you for divorce. Emotionally that can be true. From a practical standpoint, you can prepare yourself for the type of divorce you want and what you might expect after making that choice. That’s why in addition to filling out questionnaires, I send my prospective clients to my blog… Read more »

Who gets the debt?

Opening discussions in any mediation or collaborative divorce typically center on topics like the children, the house, the savings account, retirement funds, etc. Very few include things like the amount of debt accrued within the marriage. Perhaps it should. Whether it’s mediation or a collaborative divorce, the most common types of debt I encounter are:… Read more »

A holiday time share—a good or bad idea?

Even for divorcing couples who get along and are working towards an amiable resolution, holiday visitation can be a contentious point of discussion. And unless you have been divorced before, questions are many: where for Thanksgiving? Where will the kids be on Christmas morning to open up presents from Santa? What are appropriate arrangements for… Read more »

A guaranteed way to reduce your lawyer bill

In a divorce, there are some costs that cannot be avoided—e.g. waiting at the courthouse for your case to be heard. There are other costs that can be. Ask any divorce attorney—litigator, mediator or collaborative divorce—about what other part of the divorce process drives up the costs unnecessarily and most will say when the client… Read more »

Life and death divorce matters

A life and death matter divorcing couples should consider is life insurance. Most couples get some form of life insurance during the marriage and, in most cases, they name their spouse as the beneficiary. It’s not unusual for divorcing couples to keep the existing life insurance in place after the divorce.  But no matter what… Read more »