Category: Collaborative Divorce

Making the right choice for your divorce

Divorce mediation or collaborative divorce? It’s not only about the money. Making your choice strictly based on money can have some serious repercussions and most likely cost more, especially if you end up in litigation. A great example of this occurred with one of my mediation couples several years ago. Both worked out of the… Read more »

How to win in a divorce

Nobody wins in a divorce. You have heard that one before. But that refers more to the overall process and how you feel after a divorce. It’s sad and sometimes the best you can really hope for is to feel less lousy. Yet within a divorce mediation and collaborative divorce negotiation, spouses do have the… Read more »

Lawyers are counselors

That doesn’t mean we are therapists, but sometimes we need to think like one. That’s largely because it’s difficult to conduct any divorce settlement through the three types of divorces—litigation, divorce mediation, and collaborative divorce—without the emotional component playing a factor, large and small. If you know there will be a certain level of emotion… Read more »

Why you don’t want to go to court

“I’ll see you in court!” and statements like “having your day in court” might sound good and make for good drama. In divorce, unless you have no other alternative, it’s not a place you want to go for numerous reasons. Particularly if you and your spouse are able to come to an agreement through mediation… Read more »

Thoughts on significant milestones

The beginning of a new year carries different meaning for different people. For me, 2019 holds significant meaning as it represents my 10th year practicing collaborative divorce and my 20th in divorce mediation. Both milestones have me somewhat reflective as to why I chose to steer my practice in these two directions. As mentioned in… Read more »

What would I tell a friend?

Going through a divorce is one of the most difficult things you can go through in your life. It literally can define the rest of your life in either a good or bad way. It all depends on your approach. At least, that’s what I would tell a friend about how to go through a… Read more »

Divorcing with ‘adult’ children

“Who gets the kids” is a cliched question associated with many divorces. Yet what happens when the “kids” are really adults between the ages of 18 and 23 and in that next phase of life after high school? Does that or could that impact the type of divorce you choose—litigation, divorce mediation or collaborative divorce?… Read more »

What’s better, collaborative divorce or divorce mediation?

As an attorney who practices both collaborative divorce and mediation, it’s a question I’m often asked. To be honest, my answer really does not matter. The best choice between collaborative divorce or divorce mediation depends on the individuals going through the divorce, their honest appraisal of themselves and their situation and their comfort level. If… Read more »

What a collaborative divorce coach wants to know

In the past, you have heard me mention the benefits of having a divorce coach (also referred to as a facilitator) as part of your collaborative divorce team. People react differently to this recommendation. In my experience, however, the best outcomes in collaborative divorce happen with the benefit of a divorce coach. So, this blog… Read more »

Can you really take the emotion out of your divorce?

I read lots of blogs and articles written by attorneys on how to maximize your first meeting with your divorce attorney. It makes sense. We’ve been through first meetings with clients many times. We know our job is to help you focus on the items that need to be addressed to reach a resolution. That’s… Read more »