Category: Collaborative Divorce

Why you don’t want to go to court

“I’ll see you in court!” and statements like “having your day in court” might sound good and make for good drama. In divorce, unless you have no other alternative, it’s not a place you want to go for numerous reasons. Particularly if you and your spouse are able to come to an agreement through mediation… Read more »

Thoughts on significant milestones

The beginning of a new year carries different meaning for different people. For me, 2019 holds significant meaning as it represents my 10th year practicing collaborative divorce and my 20th in divorce mediation. Both milestones have me somewhat reflective as to why I chose to steer my practice in these two directions. As mentioned in… Read more »

What would I tell a friend?

Going through a divorce is one of the most difficult things you can go through in your life. It literally can define the rest of your life in either a good or bad way. It all depends on your approach. At least, that’s what I would tell a friend about how to go through a… Read more »

Divorcing with ‘adult’ children

“Who gets the kids” is a cliched question associated with many divorces. Yet what happens when the “kids” are really adults between the ages of 18 and 23 and in that next phase of life after high school? Does that or could that impact the type of divorce you choose—litigation, divorce mediation or collaborative divorce?… Read more »

What’s better, collaborative divorce or divorce mediation?

As an attorney who practices both collaborative divorce and mediation, it’s a question I’m often asked. To be honest, my answer really does not matter. The best choice between collaborative divorce or divorce mediation depends on the individuals going through the divorce, their honest appraisal of themselves and their situation and their comfort level. If… Read more »

What a collaborative divorce coach wants to know

In the past, you have heard me mention the benefits of having a divorce coach (also referred to as a facilitator) as part of your collaborative divorce team. People react differently to this recommendation. In my experience, however, the best outcomes in collaborative divorce happen with the benefit of a divorce coach. So, this blog… Read more »

Can you really take the emotion out of your divorce?

I read lots of blogs and articles written by attorneys on how to maximize your first meeting with your divorce attorney. It makes sense. We’ve been through first meetings with clients many times. We know our job is to help you focus on the items that need to be addressed to reach a resolution. That’s… Read more »

Divorce and paying for college

Divorce not only changes your reality, but that of your children. This is especially true when it comes to your children’s choice of college and the issue of paying for it. For families that can afford or have saved enough money for their children’s college, this is a non-issue. The number of people who have… Read more »

The 5 most common divorce mistakes

Going through a divorce is not pleasant. People who work with divorcing couples understand that and try to mitigate the unpleasantness for their clients as much as possible. It’s natural for a client to want the negotiation to be over and done as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, the desire for the end of the process… Read more »

3 don’ts for your divorce

People turn to divorce attorneys for guidance on reaching a divorce settlement. In more than 30 years in practice–whether for collaborative divorce, divorce mediation or litigation–the advice I offer often deals with what NOT to do. The top three in the what NOT to do while negotiating a divorce settlement includes: Dating during the negotiation:… Read more »