By now, most people have heard about the new Massachusetts’ alimony laws and how the length of time for alimony payments—at least for general term alimony–is factored based on the length of the marriage. On paper, you would think this might simplify things if you plan on mediating your divorce or going through a collaborative divorce process. The answer to that is: it can. But it can go the other way as well. (more…)
Divorce Mediation & Collaborative Divorce Articles
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As a mediator or collaborative divorce attorney, questions are a huge part of my job. Yet more often than you think, I’m the one being asked the questions. And the one most often asked is “what would I ask before hiring an attorney?”
The answer really depends on the type of lawyer needed—family attorney, mediator or collaborative divorce attorney. In general, no matter what type of attorney you need, you do want to ask three things: (more…)
Over the years, I’ve mediated dozens of cases. One thing I try to be cognizant of is that, for most people, this is their first mediation (and hopefully their last). So while this might be routine to me, it can be a trip to the unknown for divorcing couples who are already in a highly stressed state. Often, I find that people who come to my 30-minute consultation prior to the start of a case really want to know “how does it work?”
Here’s an outline of what will happen over the course of a “typical” mediation. Granted, no two mediations are the same and there are circumstances that can alter the course. For the most part, this is what you can expect: (more…)
Have you ever been so angry you wanted to scream? Did you ever let yourself actually do so? You felt better afterwards, right? Probably much better, almost to the point that you weren’t really angry anymore? In a way, that’s the kind of catharsis hiring a divorce coach for your collaborative divorce can bring. (more…)
When couples opt for a collaborative divorce, it’s usually because they are committed to working together in a cooperative fashion and want to avoid both the trauma and the expense of going to court. Regrettably, that does not mean once the couple sits down with both collaborative attorneys that it’s simply a matter of paperwork. Remember, we’re still talking about the dissolution of a marriage and that can bring out strong emotions on both sides. That’s why hiring a neutral divorce coach is a great investment for a collaborative divorce.
Essentially, a “divorce coach” is a mental health professional who is hired to monitor the collaborative divorce proceedings and to observe and intercede should emotions get so high that making progress becomes difficult. The divorce coach, like financial and other professionals brought in during a collaborative divorce, is a neutral party—neither for or against either spouse. (more…)
In its simplest definition, divorce mediation is when two people, who are getting a divorce, negotiate an agreement which is acceptable to both of them. The negotiations take place in a series of meetings with the help of a neutral third-party, called a mediator. Once an agreement is reached, the mediator prepares the necessary documents to be presented to the court.
During these meetings, it is the job of the divorce mediator to facilitate productive and respectful communication between you and your spouse. Each of you will be given a list of the things that need to be resolved as part of your divorce. The mediator also coordinates the exchange of financial records so that both you and your spouse have a full financial picture before finalizing your divorce settlement. As you and your spouse agree on terms, the mediator prepares the divorce agreement and other paperwork that is required to submit a joint petition for divorce to the court. (more…)