When it comes to celebrating the holidays, many people hearken back to their childhoods and want to replicate their family rituals for their own children, including things like lighting the menorah, decorating the tree, opening one present only on Christmas Eve, etc. Yet, if you were not a child of divorce and now you and your mate are divorcing, it may be a bit unrealistic to expect those holiday traditions to continue exactly as you remember with your family.
For many divorcing couples going through mediation or a collaborative divorce, there’s an inference that ‘my spouse and I are working together on an agreement that’s fair and we will work the holiday arrangements out’. Unfortunately, when it comes to the holidays, what you think to be reasonable may not seem the same way to your spouse. That’s why it’s so important to be as definitive as possible when setting a holiday schedule when going through a divorce. (more…)